Sunday, 18 June 2017

My Experience of Tinder

Dating Apps have only grown and grown in popularity over the past few years. So many of us are now using apps like Tinder to not just find a relationship but a companion, hook-up, one night stand etc...

By the title of this post you will have already guessed that I'm on Tinder.

And having seen so much recently about how dating app meet-ups and relationships can wrong, I wanted to share with you some tips and a few of my thoughts on Tinder.


I'll be honest I have no idea why I downloaded and set up a Tinder profile. It was plain curiosity. I wasn't and still am not consciously seeking a relationship, although maybe hard to perhaps believe as I did download a dating app. If it happens through Tinder it happens. But my initial reasoning behind it was just curiosity. 

I genuinely just wanted to see what everyone had been talking about with the dating app hype. Before I had Tinder and to be honest even now, I find myself wondering how I can create an initial impression of someone from an image? An image can still lie right? I'll talk more about this later. 

However, I still get surprised when I actually do get matched with someone to be honest. 

I'm going to be completely honest and say I've only had one date in the 6 or so months I've been using - I'm definitely not a serial dater. I'm very conscious about the fact it is a dating app and clearly I'm only going to spend my time on someone I genuinely click with. Is this is a tick point for other users?

In the new found interest of honesty also, I have been disappointed by the males on Tinder. I'm definitely not looking for someone beyond attractive, as I of course don't think I'm that attractive but initial attraction is important - that's whole idea behind Tinder. 

And am I being too shallow but I find myself swiping left on the majority of guys. Oops? 

Maybe I should be wondering if it is something I'm doing when I'm talking to these guys?! But let's not go down that road today. 


In the months I have been using it though I have found a few pet peeves.

Number One - Don't swipe and then not talk
What is that about?! If you've swiped me at least make the effort and talk to me. If you do realise you don't like me anymore then just un-match me. Don't wait for me to message you and then not reply. 

Number Two - Make an effort in conversation
I'm definitely not one for a load of small talk. I understand the starting 'hi how are you' kind of thing but I'd like to get to know you so an actual conversation would be good. I have, in the past, been talking to a guy who was super attractive but the conversation was lacking. I kind of wondered are you not interested and so not making the effort.. but then why talk to me in the first place? Or is this just how you talk. It's all very confusing. But I hope I'm not alone in thinking like this. 

Number Three - Don't keep messaging if I don't reply
I assume there's a lot of people that don't understand this. Surely if you message someone and they don't reply you can tell they're not interested? Personal opinion, it's a little creepy when someone keeps messaging you.

Number Four - Don't always go for the cheesy line
You don't always need to go a cheesy line or comment on my Tinder bio to strike up a conversation. As I said above, I completely understand the 'hi you ok' starting line because that's how I start. But then is that boring to a guy? I'd love to know. Anyway, over-cheesy starting lines will usually make me cringe. I hope this is the same for most people?

I don't think anyone will be swiping right on me after reading this - sorry haha. I'm not taking anything from Tinder or other dating apps and sites, I know so many relationships that have been forged from dating apps. I even read that an estimated 1 in 5 relationships started through dating apps. 

So you'd hope there is some hope for something real. As I said I'm not on there looking for a relationship but if it happens it happens. Just not all that confident at the moment on it happening haha. 

I did want to go on to explain some of the dangers of dating apps but I think this post is already getting longish so I'll leave that for my next post. So come back for some Tinder and other dating apps tips and how to stay safe. 

I'd love to hear your experiences of dating apps or just what you think of them? 

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  1. The Tinder struggle! I can relate to a lot of this haha

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